Shoji Kokami is a Japanese playwright, director, actor and film producer. Born in Ehime Prefecture in August 1058, Shoji has built a successful career in the world of entertainment. In addition, he was an important promoter of the cool japanprogram of the Japan’s NHK World which seeks to expand Japanese culture by exposing it abroad.
Being a promoter of Japanese culture and a great movie personality, Shoji Kokami he has a certain dynamic in which he gives advice to viewers, and a long letter attracted attention after it was published in a recent media article Asahi Shimbun Publications. Let’s review:
«I’m a 53-year-old man who can’t be nice because he still has a grudge against his mother for throwing out his anime stuff without her permission when he was in high school. “I’ve been an anime fan since I remember in elementary school, basically I love animation and I can spend hours of the day watching anime. When I was young, I was excited that I had saved enough money to buy my records and figures, but my mother hated my hobby. She kept telling me: ‘Those kinds of hobbies make other people sad, so stop now.’ And I would respond by saying, ‘I’m using my own money and my earnings from my part-time job, so it’s my problem.'”
«And continued: “One day during my sophomore year of high school, my family made the decision to move. I carefully wrapped my figures and packed my anime videos using bubble wrap. But, when we got to the new house, my things were gone. When I asked my mother, she replied, ‘You have entrance exams next year, now is not the time to get involved in those hobbies.’ Even my father thought that was too much, and said, ‘His things should not be thrown away,’ but she replied: ‘With that kind of hobby you can’t have relationships with real women’“».
«He continued: “I was completely surprised, and at that moment I almost lost my mind with grief and anger. After that, he didn’t speak to my family again for three months. I am currently 53 years old, married and living a good life with my wife. My love of anime didn’t go away as my mother wanted, and my wife loves anime tooso I buy merchandise of the things we like to decorate our room. On the other hand, my parents are old and placed in a nursing home. But I can’t let go of my grudge against my mother to this day, even to this day, since she threw away all the things I worked so hard for available.“».
«Even to this day, when I look back on those days, an intense rage comes over me as if I am suffering again. No matter what I do, I can’t be nice to my parents, and I don’t even like to visit my old home. My mother dismisses me as a promiscuous son, but I think I’m a dear person. I’m really tired of hurting them and I want to think about the future. How can I get rid of this old resentment towards my parents? Kokami-san, please give me your wisdom.».
If you are curious about the answer the filmmaker gave him, in short he asked the subject if he was honest with his mother. That is, if he admits that he still holds grudges against you because of what happened in the past. He also asked him, when he does it, to ask him properly, why he did it. Considering all the answers, if you can’t let go of that wretch even with that, your hatred may have “taken root” and you will probably take it with you to the grave. This could happen even if her mother offers an apology, but the subject feels that it is not enough. The only way to get rid of something negative is to remove it from the body.
Fountain: Asahi Shimbun Publications